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Black Silk YY: Social Anxiety of Young People, the Orgy of Desire Hidden Behind the Screen 😰

Late at night, you lie in bed and brush your cell phone, your fingers mechanically scratching through a dynamic. Suddenly, a carefully composed photo of black silk jumps into your eyes - slender legs, hidden curves, the background is a high-class hotel floor windows. Your heart races, and your finger hangs indecisively over the like button. Like? It seems too intentional. Don't? You're reluctant to do so. In the end, you silently long-press save and turn off your phone, leaving only the sound of your own breathing in the darkness.

Why is it that we are more and more accustomed to hiding behind the screen and clicking like, but in reality, we are afraid to even say "hello"?

This is not an isolated case. The data show that over68% of young peopleadmitted that they have repeatedly browsed the social updates of the opposite sex late at night, with "black silk" content becoming a high-frequency concern. Li Min, a psychology professor, pointed out thatVisual stimuli can quickly activate the brain's reward circuitand this instant gratification is overwhelming, especially when realistic socialization is frustrating."

Xiao Yang's story hit the pain point of countless people. This 25-year-old programmer in the game forum is recognized as a "master of flirting with girls", emoticons used to fly, paragraph handy. But when the company's new female colleagues wearing black silk high heels walked past his workstation, he stared at the screen pretending to concentrate, and even looked up to say "morning" have to be mentally constructed for half an hour." Online I dare to call my wife, in reality, send a cup of coffee are shaking hands," he smiled bitterly and showed his cell phone collection of more than thirty black silk street photography.

this kind ofonline dragon and offline bugThe sense of tearing is spreading into a social disease. A university club has done an experiment: let the members in the social platform to the object of choice for a week in a row to like, the results83% received private messages in response; but when they were asked to realistically ask each other out for coffee, the success rate plummeted to17%. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that. President Chen Lu found that "many people can chat about horoscopes and movies and life ideals in private messages, but they can't even maintain eye contact for three seconds in a meeting."

As black silk goes from clothing to social currency, are we losing our ability to connect authentically?

The camera pans to a more secretive corner. 28-year-old marketing director Lin Wei shoots three OOTDs (Outfits of the Day) a day, with the black silk look bound to break a thousand likes. But the depths of her closet hide pilled pajamas and worn slippers." Every time she posts a photo, she gets anxious that the next shot won't be amazing enough." The relationship collapsed when she discovered that her boyfriend had Netflix black silk photos stored on his phone, "It turned out that what he loved was never the real me."

this kind ofperformative socializationis draining young people's emotional energy. Psychological counselor Wang Tao receives more than a dozen similar cases every week: "When people bind their self-worth to the number of likes, it's like stepping on stilts in black silk-it looks glamorous, but every step is shaky."

But the way to break it is not in uninstalling the app, but in rebuilding the reality anchor.

Fitness instructor Ajay, 29, was addicted to swiping black silk videos from the dance area until he started working as an assistant instructor in a dance classroom." The first time I encountered a trainee real silk stocking fabric, I was so nervous that I spilled mineral water all over the floor." Three months later, he organized an offline street dance exchange, watching the girls in black silk generously display their dancing skills, "suddenly understand that the real is a thousand times more moving than the filter."

this kind oftactile socializationThere is a quiet revival of tactile socialization. First-tier cities have seen the emergence of "offline clubs", where members hand over their cell phones when they meet; Douban groups have seen the number of people clocking in on "Did you talk to a real person today?" reach 100,000; and there are even activities such as "Black Silk About the Library", where black silk is worn not for taking pictures but for sitting quietly and reading for an afternoon.

Fantasy is wings, but keep your feet on the ground of reality. When you are late at night and once again open the favorite black silk photos, may as well ask yourself: tomorrow, you dare not wear black silk to the elevator that girl smiled and said "good morning"?

True sexiness is never in the thickness of a stocking, but in the temperature of your hand when you reach out. 🌹